Tips for Chatting to Men

We like people that are like ourselves. It’s known as rapport, a mutual feeling of understanding and trust. And the way you communicate is the key to building rapport with someone of the other sex.

The fact is that men and women communicate in different ways. So, for a woman to connect well with a man, she should:

• speak slower. Men speak in a slow and deliberate way. So try and match his speed, pace and pitch.
• talk facts not feelings. Present facts as the basis of a discussion or argument, not your feelings, emotions or feminine intuition.
• make direct statements and try not to be apologetic. Say things like “we need to...” rather than “I was hoping that we can...”
• talk about the things he’s interested in, not just what you and your girl friends are in to. Men tend to talk about five things - sport, work, politics, cars (and roads), and gadgets. And themselves!
• mirror his posture without appearing to mimic him.
• be clear about what you want and go for it.

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