Dating Masterclass

I’m running a Dating Masterclass in Birmingham on Sunday 15 March. It’s a practical dating workshop that’ll have a big impact on your dating results. Although it’s on behalf of Spice, you can join the other 15 people as my paying guest. Booking instructions are at the bottom of this page.

These days dating can be really frustrating, especially as you often don’t know what you’re doing right or doing wrong. Whether you’re just still looking or back on the dating scene after a break up, this one-day workshop will give you some new ideas and impetus to move forward. The workshop will cover…

• Where to Look for “The One”: Understanding what you’re looking for and new ideas where you might find your One.
• On-line Dating: Picking the right dating site, developing a great profile and ways to get noticed. Tips for email and chat, handling your responses, follow-up and that first phone call.
• Speed-Dating: Making an excellent first impression, putting your best foot forward and getting matches. Ideas for follow-up and the next date!
• First Impressions: Some thoughts on the impression you give and how others perceive you. Ideas and simple suggestions on how you can turn things around and get results you deserve.
• The First Date: Techniques to make sure that you come across as an interesting person who’s interested in your date. Other ideas for getting the best out of that first date.

Kick-Start your Love Life: Although you know you want to meet someone special you may just feel overwhelmed about getting more pro-active and are not sure where to start? On this workshop you’ll have a good time with like minded people and discover plenty of simple ideas, sensible plans and suggestions based on exercises and activities. You’ll feel more confident and able to focus on an action plan in 2009!

Sunday 15 March, 10am to approx 4.30pm
Park Inn Hotel, West Brom, just off Junction 1 of the M5. B70 6RS
Cost is £45 which includes teas/coffees & light sandwich lunch

Book your place through the Spice website (www.spicebham.com), or by calling them on 0121 353 6161.

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Find, Attract & Keep Your One

On 21 & 22 April I running a weekend workshop in Nottingham. It’s called “How to Find, Attract & Keep Your One” where you’ll discover the secrets of finding a perfect partner.

You’ll learn where and how to meet your soulmate. How to approach them and look confident and relaxed. How to make small talk, and sound like the interesting person you are. How to flirt and use your body language to make people feel comfortable. And finally, you’ll learn the secrets of seduction.

Life’s too short to miss out.

So for details and to book go to www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk/weekend/

Confidence Boost

I recently did a interview on BBC Radio about a survey that the BBC had just completed on "what makes a woman feel good".

The THIRD most mentioned thing was being told "I love you".

The SECOND most mentioned thing was being told "You've lost weight".

And what makes MOST women feel best of all is 'being chatted up by a stranger'.

Check out my audio file at http://www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk/tips.html to see how to do it!

First Date

Believe it or not, one of the girls on Saturday's Flirting Safari ended up having coffee with a guy she'd met ten minutes earlier.

I took six apprentices (five girls & one guy) into a bookshop to coach them on chatting up strangers. One of the girls approached a guy in the thriller section and ten minutes later they were having coffee together. She 'broke out' after 15 minutes with a promise of another date. That's a win!

Just shows how you could find your one anywhere. Join my Flirting Safari to learn how.

Peter, The Dating Doctor

Art of Kissing

I heard on the radio that it's National Kissing Day today.

A good snog is intoxicating. Try it with…

• eyes open.
• nibbling their bottom lip.
• flicking the tip of your tongue across their lips.
• moaning – it creates vibration in your mouths.
• kiss with white wine or champagne.

Check out more of my tips at http://www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk/tips.html

Ditch the Ipod!

We naturally isolate ourselves from people in public places; being told as children not to talk with strangers! But these days it could be having drastic affects on your love life. Recently during a Flirting Safari, one of the ladies didn’t approach a ‘gorgeous’ looking man because he was attached to his ipod – the moral of the story being that if you walk around ‘engaged’, you may be missing out!

So don’t miss your opportunity, ditch the ipod and be available, the person next to you on the bus or in the queue, could be your ideal partner.

For more information of how you can be learn to be more ‘available’ visit www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk

First Date Week

Last week was “First Date Week”, when more first dates take place than in any other week of the year, following the loneliness and pain that Christmas can bring. If you found yourself without a date last week and with no prospect of one in sight, then check out my hints and tips section on www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk and book yourself into one of my fantastic seminars and get dating!

Art of Insinuation

For all those hoping for a kiss under the mistletoe, here is a wonderful Christmas gift. Buy one of those small boxes of chocolates with only two or three in it. Don’t wrap it, just hand it over to your ‘intended’ with the words "Eat these in bed tonight and think of me".

To learn more about the art of seduction and how to use it to your advantage, come along to one of the dating Doctor's workshops. For more details on a weekend workshop that's just in time for Valentine’s day, visit www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk/weekend

Phone Numbers

Been thinking about the last few Flirting Safaris... the girls seems so much better at asking for phone numbers.

In London a month ago, one of the girls chatted up a guy in an outdoor shop and ended by asking for his phone number. He gave her the number and a kiss on the cheek. Lovely!!

Then on Saturday in Birmingham, a girl got the number off a guy in the music store. They'd been chatting over the DVD's.

I suspect that the girls are less frightened by the thought of rejection, or maybe they just have more courage.

The Sexpert

I spent Monday morning in London advising a company on the art of Flirting through body language. The Company were shooting a video depicting a "boy meets girl in a bar" scenario.

The unspoken words and the little details in the sequence meant everything.

For more details on how you can learn flirting through your body language visit www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk

Art of Seduction

Last Tuesday night in Birmingham, 40 people gathered to practice the "Art of Seduction".

The evening was filled with a flurry of activity and energy with the emphasis on flirting and a good number of phone numbers were exchanged in the process! Great fun was had by all.

Everyone should learn the "Art of Seduction", to find out how visit www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk

Business Networking is Just Like Dating

I'm due to speak at the Birmingham YES Group this evening, Thursday 14th September.

The title of my talk is "Networking is Like Dating" and I will explain how you can develop the six key social skills you need to make meeting new people both enjoyable and rewarding.

You can get a summary of my talk and have a look at my recommended reading list by going to www.spalton.co.uk/talks/dating.html

E-mail me if you want to know more, my contact details are in my profile and on my web site.

Situational Openers

When you have a chance encounter with someone, most people don't know how to start a conversation. In fact, the best way is to look at the situation you're both in and make a 'sparky' comment. Things that interest or puzzle you and are likely to interest them.

"I hate these new PIN numbers"
"That stuff looks fun, doesn't it?"
"This looks good, have you tried the sausages?"
"Fancy only having one barman"
"We've been waiting ages, is this train always late?"
"You know, they never seem to put anything on special offer that I really want"
"Excuse me, but I've just got to say that I think you're T-shirt is fantastic"
"Now those look fattening, but terrific!"

The trick is to not think too hard about what you're going to say, because you'll 'chicken-out'. The best way is to trust your luck and just look at the situation you're both in, turn to other person and say the first thing that comes in your head.

If you want to learn some other ways to start conversations with strangers, come along to a Flirting Safari.

As one guy said recently... Hi Peter, I came on your Flirting Safari yesterday. I like to say thank you, it is quite cool - did end up getting a number yesterday evening - from a gorgeous 27 year old girl at a station, using a situational opener, which would never have happened without the training had from you.

Chat Up Strangers in Art Galleries and Exhibitions

Art galleries and exhibitions are a great place to meet people, because they are a relaxed environment like Waterstones or Borders. People have time to browse and seem happy to chat.

The best way to approach someone is when they are standing looking at a picture or exhibit. Come along side them, and after a few seconds say something that strikes you about the picture or exhibit. Maybe something like... "I love the way he's captured the shadows."

You've then got keep the conversation going. You could ask them if they've been here before, whether they're on a visit for the day or on holiday, or if they saw another exhibition that you also went to. Then listen to what they say and follow any interesting things they might mention to build the conversation.

Practice makes you perfect, so talk to anyone in three feet.

To learn the best way to approach strangers, come on one of my Flirting Safaris.

Make Small Talk Big

Got some great feedback from the workshop that I did in Sheffield last Thursday evening.

The session was called "What to Say After Hello" and covered the art of small talk and how to build rapport with others. Sixteen people attended the workshop at the Showroom Cinema in the centre of Sheffield. One of them e-mailed me and said...

"Hi Peter Thanks for the chat up lessons. Very enlightening and entertaining! I'll have to get the notes off your system to remind me."

If you want to look at the notes too, check out http://www.followthethread.com

Dating in Birmingham

This week I'm running two dating events with a difference.

A Singles Evening at Selfridges on Tuesday 7th March

An opportunity to mix with other single people at an after hours evening in Birmingham's premier shop.

More at http://www.selfridges.com/index.cfm?page=1033&element=4848

A Flirting Safari on Saturday 11th March

A unique chance for just four people to learn & practice how to chat up complete strangers in Birmingham city centre.

Book at www.flirtingsafari.com

Flirting Safari in Sheffield

Just recorded a radio interview about the Flirting Safari to be broadcast on BBC Radio Sheffield at 7:45 tomorrow, Thursday 16th February. Click here to listen live on the internet.

Browse www.flirtingsafari.com to discover more about my Flirting Safari. I run them on most Saturdays around the country - Sheffield this Saturday the 18th February, Bristol on the 4th March.

The Dating Doctor on TV

Valentine's Day and a big TV day for me.

This morning I was on Sky News at 8:45 am with Eamonn Holmes and Lorna Dunkley talking about the cost of Valentine's Day, being unpredictable and how we chat up strangers on my Flirting Safari.

At 11:30 I did a short piece on Channel 5 with Kate Gerbeau. There we chatted about romance, confidence and the power of a smile.

Social Skills

Tomorrow I'm due to talk to the London chapter of the Chartered Institute of Public Relations at the Cumberland Hotel at Marble Arch. The reception area of the hotel is out of this world.

The title of my talk is "Body Talk - the art of successful communication for business & pleasure". And I will explain how you can develop the six key social skills you need to make your business and social networking enjoyable and rewarding.You can get a summary of my talk and have a look at my recommended reading list by going to